Who’s the Bad Guy? – Jeremy Austill
Who’s the Bad Guy?

My son loves watching movies. This past weekend we spent approximately six hours driving for a preaching engagement. He sat in the back seat glued to his DVD player the entire drive. He is perfectly fine watching a movie for the 12th time. He is also a pretty literal kid who likes things clearly defined and categorized. Is there anyone else out there like that? Sometimes this presents a slight challenge when it comes to watching movies, which are a version of art imitating life.

When we talk about a movie, he wants to clearly identify the bad guy, the villain, the antagonist. In most children’s movies the lines are distinct between the good guys and the bad guys. However, as he has gotten older and the movies have gotten a little more complex, it is occasionally difficult to clearly identify the roles. All the more, the “bad guys” have some positive traits and the “good guys” start having some negative traits.

Life is very similar.

Humans are complex. We are rarely black and white. We have some incredible attributes and some less than desirable traits. At times we play the protagonist, and at times, we inadvertently play the antagonist.

My son has learned a new aspect of cinema and story telling in general…

Backstory.

Backstory has a way of creating within us sympathy for the “bad guy”. It gives us context, understanding of how he or she became the current expression of themselves. It will often reveal some pain, a wound, or an injustice that tainted the heart of someone who had within them the capability of becoming a “good guy”.

How is this relevant to your every day life?

We tend to categorize people.

“I don’t like them.”

“They always behave this way.”

“They are bitter.”

“They are rebellious.”

“They are a problem.”

“They are a disaster.”

“They are rude.”

It would be wise, and Christ like, to consider the likelihood that the person you are dealing with has a backstory. Everything we are at present is a manifestation of our past. Every positive characteristic some would use to describe us is tethered to positive experiences, influences, encounters, thought patterns, and habits from days gone by. Simultaneously, every less than desirable characteristic some would use to describe us is tethered to negative experiences, influences, encounters, thought patterns, and habits.

People are who they are for a reason.

The ones we would categorize in less than ideal terms probably have some legitimate cause and effect going on in their life.

Instead of being frustrated with people, assuming the worst about people, making judgment about people, giving up on people…Instead of trying to fix the behavior, the attitude, the chaos…

Spend some time discovering their backstory.

They are more complex than the flat stereotype or label we assign them. Hearing where they have been, what they have experienced, is the quickest path to patience and compassion…justice and mercy…grace and healing.

There aren’t as many “bad guys” as we think. Just a lot of people with yet to be discovered backstories.

2 Comments

  • Tia Banton Gilley says:

    This is great, what a new prospective for people to contemplate in their lives as they interact with new people.
    I have been on both sides of this spectrum, “the bad guy/gal” due to drug addiction caused by my inability to properly grieve over my daddy’s death and also an abusive marriage, living on life’s terms was just to hard for me to grasp for 12+ yrs and I was not a good person and my choices and actions showed that. I spent a lot of time in & out of jail, I lost everything I have ever loved and cared about, I became my own worst enemy. Until something glorious happened during a Living Free group where someone truly showed me they cared about me by telling me that God loved me & if I only just gave Him a chance my life would change & they were right because not 5 mins after they said this to me our Father God picked me up out of the corner of my jail cell & told me it was time to trust Him! I made that leap if faith and have been obediently following His chosen path for me every since and WOW my life has changed so much, He has blessed me with an even greater life so far than I’ve ever imagined and we are not even close to being done yet, Thank you Jesus! If we as Christians can begin to look at the sin instead of the person we can start to change this world and love people like Christ did, it only takes one person to show they care always chose to be that person! God bless

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